A unicorn usually refers to a hot bi babe, who is willing to date both members of an existing couple, the unicorn hunters.
- The unicorn is not allowed to date with one member of the triad, always with both.
- She would not want any other partners except them and would be willing to change her life in order to be with them.
- If things don’t work out that she is willing to leave with no issues
In the poly community, unicorn hunters are considered to be couples (dyads) that are looking for the HBB. They tend to be new poly couples (not always but usually). Such dyads may have specific rules that allow them to end the poly relationship, send the unicorn away, and stay together.
It is a triad consisting of a couple and a third partner - the unicorn. She isn’t allowed to do anything with only one member of the triad, always with both. If the unicorn triad doesn’t work, the girlfriend will leave. While on the other hand, there are no such rules for couples. The couple in a unicorn triad has “couple privilege” since this kind of relationship place couple’s demand beyond the unicorn.
It is a closed triad relationship that everyone is equal. All the partners agree not to be sexual outside the current members of the group. The difference is that the partners can be sexual together, or in any pairing. And no pair has more power or control in the relationship than the other partner. All are equal.
When a unicorn woman enters into a pre-existing relationship, she creates a new relationship dynamic. It is not fair to her to be forced into the couples pre-defined relationship mold. Even though there are rules for unicorn women. Time has changed, so can be the rules. The best situation to find a unicorn for the couple is to communicate. This communication is important. Sit down and set up your own rules - keep good ones and add new ones which every person involved agrees. In this way, looking for a unicorn will not only a dream.
For those unicorn hunters who treat the search for a woman like shopping will never have or keep a good triad. There are women who want to be part of a triad. Don’t antagonize them by treating them as objects. Triads are normal in polyamory. Let it happen naturally. Meet people and make friends. Let it happen naturally.